3 Keys to Building Self-Confidence

Build Self-Confidence
What’s so important about self-confidence? People who develop self-confidence become the persistent go-getters who make positive changes happen in their lives! They trust their intuition and are self-assured in their abilities, decisions and actions.

Have you ever needed the courage to leave something negative behind — a suffocating job perhaps? Have you been searching for bravery to make a positive change in your life — to discover your true passion maybe? It’s nerve-wracking to take the leap, but it’s what makes life worthwhile.

Here are three keys to building self-confidence, so you find the strength to make life happen for you!

  1. Be Prepared
  2. Arthur Ashe was one of the best tennis players in the United States, winning three Grand Slams, and I’ll always remember when he said: “One important key to success is self-confidence. An important key to self-confidence is preparation.

    Start by educating yourself. I didn’t know what to expect when I headed to Japan for a student exchange, so I did as much research as I could on the area where I would be living. Inform yourself through the Internet, books, classes and people who have shared the same experiences. I was able to find someone who had participated in the same exchange program the year before me and she generously shared her time to answer my most specific questions about Osaka; we even met each other in person a couple years later!

    Minimize nerves by making sure you’re prepared. If you’re tense and worried about a sports event, presentation or a meeting, prepare yourself by practicing. Build self-confidence by rehearsing what you’ll say or do and visualizing yourself succeeding.

  3. Act the Part
  4. Sometimes, you just need to fake it until you make it because your outward actions can affect how you feel inside. Researchers at Harvard and Columbia University asked participants to perform “power poses,” such as putting your feet up on a desk or leaning over a table with an upright stance. The researchers found that even just one minute of these types of poses can affect your hormones, so you feel more powerful and more likely to take risks, which can contribute to feelings of self-confidence.

    How you display yourself will also make a difference with how others perceive you and react toward you. For example, psychologists from a pair of Dutch universities demonstrated that a person seeing you smile has an automatic, unconscious reaction in their smile muscles that positively influences their reaction and judgment. Use this to your advantage and smile more!

  5. Fight Down Negativity
  6. Two-time heavyweight boxing champion, George Foreman, said it best: “That’s my gift. I let that negativity roll off me like water off a duck’s back. If it’s not positive, I didn’t hear it. If you can overcome that, fights are easy.” You can tackle anything when you overcome negative thoughts like fear, worry and doubt.

    There are a few strategies you can take to combat negativity: laugh it off, be rational with yourself or act like an outsider. For some, it works best if you take Foreman’s approach and avoid taking yourself or your thoughts too seriously. We all need more lightheartedness and a sense of humor in life. Relax and focus on the positive instead.

    If you find that you’re more of a rational and logical kind of person, try talking yourself through your negativity. Challenge your negative thoughts until the end — you may find that they’re wrong. Finally, if your skill is in helping others, try to put on your coach or best friend hat with yourself. Give yourself the pep talk you need to build your self-confidence.

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What else has worked to help you build your self-confidence?

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  1. VinnyT
    Posted May 14, 2011 at 1:44 pm | Permalink

    Some very nice ideas there,Samantha Thanks! As an adolescent, I lacked self confidence, especially around girls. So started lifting weights,to improve my physique and hopefully, my self-confidence as well. It really worked. Within a few months, I had developed a very nice build that the girls all loved, and this did wonders in improving my self confidence. It really does work. Improve your appearance, ad your confidence in yourself will improve too!

  2. Samantha Bangayan
    Posted May 14, 2011 at 5:38 pm | Permalink

    Wow! I can’t imagine you lacking self-confidence considering how much you’ve achieved in life, Vinny. This is such an inspiring story! It’s so true that appearance makes a huge difference too. I used to run 10k races and I think those years contributed to some of the big decisions I’ve made in life for myself! =)

  3. Kristin Kang
    Posted May 18, 2011 at 6:06 pm | Permalink

    Wow, great article Sam! Couldn’t agree more with your main points. Even small accomplishments like finishing a run, can give a big confidence boost. It’s something everyone can work on, regardless of which stage they are at in life :). Stumbled upon this article and now i’m off to reading your others!

  4. Samantha Bangayan
    Posted May 19, 2011 at 5:02 am | Permalink

    Kristin, I was so excited to see your comment! Thank you so much for taking the time to leave your thoughts. =) I *so* agree with you about finishing a run — that’s a great example and a reminder that I should be out running more too. =) I love how you’re finding value in the little things in life, Kristin. I bet it contributes to why you’re such a happy person! =)

  5. Posted May 22, 2011 at 1:19 am | Permalink

    Fabulous tips, Sam!

  6. Posted May 22, 2011 at 1:24 am | Permalink

    What a great article, Samantha!!! I loved it. (And truth be told, I needed to read something like this tonight)

  7. Posted May 22, 2011 at 1:27 am | Permalink

    Hi Samantha I think the higher power that rules the earth wants me to hear this message today. I was at this workshop this morning/afternoon and that was the message the presenter, Jose Rosa owner of Creativetouch Advertising (FB Page http://tiny.cc/0s5qa), spoke about to the youth of the Goodwill Mentoring/Rize program. It is a very powerful message, if you don’t believe in yourself who will?

  8. Posted May 22, 2011 at 2:00 am | Permalink

    Great post, Samantha.

    These tips are so important. Sometimes it’s easy to sit around waiting or wishing to become more self-confident…when the truth is that the power lies within our grasp. We just have to follow these guidelines and prepare ourselves and build the confidence necessary to accomplish what we desire.

  9. Posted May 22, 2011 at 4:08 am | Permalink

    very inspiring !!
    confidence act as booster in any kind of work.

  10. Posted May 22, 2011 at 4:21 am | Permalink

    Sam, aloha. WOW! The Yellow Brick Road is a surprise to me and a delightful one at that. So glad that I found you here.

    Loved the stories you used with each of your examples.

    For me what helps to build self confidence when doing a new endeavor, is seeing the improvement. This may be how much better I can do it previously, how much faster or that at least I understand where I am going wrong.

    Sam, thoroughly enjoyed reading this post. Best wishes for a great weekend. Aloha. Janet

  11. Samantha Bangayan
    Posted May 25, 2011 at 1:22 am | Permalink

    Mysti, I’m so ecstatic that these tips were helpful for you! =) Thanks so much for stopping by! =)

  12. Samantha Bangayan
    Posted May 25, 2011 at 1:23 am | Permalink

    Melissa, sometimes *just* the right article falls into our laps and I’m so excited to hear that this article could be motivational for you. I know that you are a *strong* woman and I want to support you as much as you’ve supported me! =)

  13. Samantha Bangayan
    Posted May 25, 2011 at 11:39 pm | Permalink

    Karla, thank you so much for introducing me to Jose! It sounds like exactly the kind of message that I wanted to express. It’s why personal development is so important! =)

  14. Samantha Bangayan
    Posted May 25, 2011 at 11:40 pm | Permalink

    Steve, I *knew* that you’d get exactly what I meant. We just need to be reminded sometimes that *we* have the power to make positive changes in our lives! =) Thanks so much for getting it! =)

  15. Samantha Bangayan
    Posted May 25, 2011 at 11:41 pm | Permalink

    Jyoti, you got it! =) That’s exactly what I meant! =) And we definitely need those boosts to keep snowballing the positivity! =) Thanks so much for stopping by and for all your support!

  16. Samantha Bangayan
    Posted May 25, 2011 at 11:42 pm | Permalink

    Janet, wow! Thank you so much for taking the time to read and comment on this article! =) I’m so ecstatic to see you here!

    I loved your point about seeing improvements and building on those highs. It’s why it can make a big difference to measure our achievements. If we have realistic goals and appreciate all the tiny advances, it can only snowball from there. =)

    Thank you so much for adding your insight, Janet! =)

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