5 More Ways to Make Long Distance Love Last


There are a lot of reasons people find themselves in long distance relationships. Perhaps you’re mentally preparing for the inevitable move to college like I was, and you aren’t sure whether you can handle being away from your loved one. Maybe a job promotion is forcing you to relocate, but your partner has to stay put. Or, maybe you’re loved one is about to become a member of the military, and you want to learn how to handle being separated for a while.

No matter the circumstance, there are ways to put in precious time and energy when it comes to living away from your flame. For one, many websites are devoted to suggested activities for long distance couples. As a recent long-distancer, who made it out of a separation unscathed, I’ve come up with a list of ways to maintain your connection.

Now that you’re familiar with the first five ways to extend the life of your love through a short- or long-term time frame, here are five more ways:

1. Support each other from afar.

While in a relationship, it’s key to keep tabs on what’s important to one another. Though you may not always share the same interests—my boyfriend loves history and I love astrology—being interested in your partner should transcend all of those differences.

2. Stay in the know and keep regular updates.

While away, ask questions about how things are going, what new things are being learned, and if there are any exciting events he or she is anticipating. These questions are important for both sides of communication. The last thing one wants is the other to feel like it’s never about them. That can be devastating to someone who has just watched their loved one move away, while everything around them has stayed the same.

3. Focus on school or work.

Remember, there is a reason that you or your partner had to move. Make the most of this chunk of time by actually focusing on the work at hand. It will make the time fly by faster, and if you receive academic or other kinds of achievements, it’ll help you maintain that everything was worth it. But don’t become a complete workhorse.

4. Grow through your journey, not apart.

I can remember walking the streets of Boston not wanting to try anything new. I kept mentally putting things off for the day my boyfriend would be there to visit. Eventually, I stopped feeling so dependent, and I started to enjoy my time there—while respecting our relationship, of course.

5. Be honest.

When any major change occurs, there are going to be times that are challenging to get through. Part of becoming an adult is learning the ability to adapt to these changes. They don’t say “roll with the waves” for nothing. Don’t be afraid to feel whatever emotions come to you and get them out.

No one said relationships were effortless, though some feel they should be. If I’ve learned anything from the almost six years I’ve been with my partner, it’s that patience goes a long way and the longer you’re together the more work it sometimes requires. Love changes as people change, but we’re all striving to find that happy place we can go to with the ones we love. Never forget that.

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If you found this post helpful, but you still have concerns, please leave a comment below. I am more than happy to give advice to anyone going through this sort of situation. Be as detailed as you’d like.

How did you maintain your long-distance love? Share any tips or advice below.

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3 Comments

  1. Meg
    Posted June 6, 2011 at 2:55 am | Permalink

    This is a great post, Sara!

  2. Oleg A.
    Posted June 6, 2011 at 3:04 am | Permalink

    Long distance relationships are hard. I had a long distance relationship with my girlfriend for over 2 years. She went away to school and I stayed home. I think that the most important factor in helping our relationship grow and keeping it together while we were apart from each other is trust. I always had alot of trust in my gf and everything she did, that is why I was never jealous or weary of her actions and what she was doing. It made me be more calmer and allowed me to go through my day with ease, even though my best friend and lover was 300 miles away, a girl who i couldnt see on the daily basis anymore. So trust is perhaps the most important factor in a long distance relationship.

    The next improtant thing is allowing time to see you gf and bf and being in constant contact with each other, so that you keep the relationship and the feelings alive and current, its important!!

    Lastly, put the 2 things (love + trust ) and you will be ok !

  3. Posted June 6, 2011 at 3:21 am | Permalink

    Thank you Meg :)

    Oleg what a wonderful comment! Thank you so much for sharing your long-distance love story.

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